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I’m finding this blog process to be a lot like getting organized---without a support system, I’d feel pretty alone in this endeavor.

When I say support system, I mean those folks closest to us who believe in us and, in fact, support our efforts. It’s not that they have to get in there and help---although if you need help, ask---but we need to surround ourselves with folks that are on our side, especially when we’re getting organized.

But let’s be realistic. Those closest to us have their own problems. Problems they might need our help with. Problems that get in the way of us fully taking care of ourselves. This is where I go beyond the support system to what I call having an anchor.

An anchor comes in the form of a coach or an accountability partner who is crucial to our progress. This person doesn’t need our help. They are here only for us---what a concept! One of my anchors is my business coach, Brett Morris.

In a recent coaching session, I came to appreciate how great it was to have someone hold me to my goals. In theory I can accomplish almost everything on my own---after all most action items were my ideas, but for some reason I question them. (Sound familiar?) Having a coach allows me to take what comes from within and bring it out. From there “actions lead to new actions,” as Brett succinctly put it.

At first thought, getting organized can be overwhelming or unpleasant. Yet, the basics are pretty elementary---group like items, keep only what you use and have space for. But when we’re dealing with the emotions, the history, or the baggage of the current situation, it’s tough to see that these actions will lead to new actions.

This is where having an anchor comes in. Anchors help us stay grounded and focused on what’s most important to us, without needing anything beyond our honest effort. I have many anchors, both professional and personal. And each one helps me realize the next new action.

When I considered starting a blog, it seemed overwhelming. In my mind, I knew it’d be another way to market ubeu®, and it would help me sort out my ideas about writing that book that everyone’s been pestering me about. But finding the time, knowing what I really wanted to achieve, and trusting that I could do it were pretty stymieing.

Sound familiar? Starting any new project is a lot like deciding to get organized. You don’t know where to start. You doubt your abilities to keep it up. You listen to all the tapes that you’ve told yourself---or others have told you---and it’s very easy to stop, delay, postpone, or go grab another Diet Coke.

When I got the email from my web developer, Joe, that the blog page was up, my heart just about stopped. It was show time. It was go time, as in get organized. Like getting organized, I’d been planning this for months in my mind, ruminating and frustrated that it hadn’t happened yet, worrying what boat I was missing. It was on my to-do list, yet I just didn’t have a reason to start.

But sometimes, we have to just start. Whether someone switches on a green light for us, like my web developer or whether we just get so sick of ourselves, our desks, the path to the bathroom, etc., there comes a time when we must act. It’s go time. G.O. time.

A lot of the reason why we want to get organized is to take better care of ourselves. The steps to that outcome can take many forms, from simply setting down your keys in the same place every time to a full-on excavation of the piles on your desk. Remembering the big picture can be a great motivator.

So you’re not alone. Many of us are afraid of starting something because it seems overwhelming. Have the big picture in mind, find what motivates you, and just start.